Overextended and Undernourished: A Self-care Guide for People in Helping Roles
My book, Overextended and Undernourished, offers immediate “help for the helpers”. Whether you are a health professional, a counselor, in customer service, in a caregiver role, or struggle with codependency you will learn to:
• Counteract the stress and self-defeating aspects of unhealthy giving.
• Take better care of yourself while helping others.
• Recognize and overcome attitudes, habits and outdated survival strategies that perpetuate compassion fatigue and prevent you from implementing self-care.
* Includes rich case histories, self-assessments and hands-on exercises.
Taking better care of yourself while helping others
Is it easier for you to give than to receive? Do you take on other people's suffering and go above and beyond what is expected of you? Continually put others' needs before your own needs?
The stress of being in a helping role can take a toll on your health, relationships and effectiveness. For over twenty years I have been conducting presentations for onsite staff, conferences and retreats. Allow me to customize a presentation to the needs of your staff or group. Helpers are often focused on the needs of others at the expense of attending to their own needs. In addition to the stress of being in a helping role, they often have habits that undermine their efforts at self-care and increase their susceptibility to compassion fatigue. Some examples include taking on the suffering of others, equating self- worth according to the good done for others, and feeling responsible for people’s happiness. These tendencies lead to excessive people pleasing, difficulty setting limits and becoming overly focused on others. In this presentation participants will learn to: * Be empathetic while maintaining clear boundaries. * Identify and challenge obstacles to implementing self-care. * Distinguish between healthy and unhealthy giving. * Reduce susceptibility to burnout and compassion fatigue.
Most people are better at attending to their self-care in some areas , but neglect other aspects of their life. For example, you exercise regularly and eat a healthy diet, yet are often "on the edge" financially. The quiz below can help you identify how well you take care of yourself.